FAQ

What is the purpose of the MMM?

Create mentor/mentee relationships that accelerate one’s pursuit of following Christ.

What is our understanding of mentoring?

At the end of the day, mentoring is a relationship of trust and transparency in which a more experienced person helps to guide, support, model, and resource a less experienced person.

What is a mentor?

A mentor is a person who is willing to build into the life of another person by sharing his experiences and learnings in life. A mentor does not have to have it all figured out; he just needs to have an intentional walk with Christ.

What does a mentor do?

A mentor builds into the life of a mentee by:
– Sharing his successes and failures
– Focusing on God’s truth and wisdom
– Providing a transparent and vulnerable environment
– Praying with and for the mentee

How does the mentor relationship start?

While many mentor/mentee relationships start organically, we also realize that some happen through a more formal pathway. To that end, the relationship is initiated when a mentor completes a survey that provides insight into his life (e.g., life circumstances, interests, etc.) that helps create the best match possible with a mentee. Once a match is made, we will send out an email to both the mentor/mentee with each other’s contact information.

How often do the mentor and mentee meet?

While there is no prescribed approach, we encourage the mentor and mentee to meet at least once a month.

How long does the mentor relationship last?

The mentor relationship lasts for one year. While we would anticipate that you will want to stay in relationship with your mentee beyond a year, we only ask that you intentionally come alongside your mentee for this period of time.

What does a get-together look like?

We encourage you to meet over coffee or a meal—a setting that is conducive to building a relationship. Have fun. Share life. Share stories. Ask questions. Offer encouragement. Pray. Find out how you can be supportive and resourceful.

At the first get-together, knowing that each mentoring relationship will be unique, we encourage the mentor to initiate a time to talk about expectations. Some mentoring relationships will be very deliberate (e.g., discussing a book), while others will be more spontaneous (e.g., talking about what is currently on the heart and mind of the mentee).

What resources can I use for the mentoring relationship?

Should the mentor and mentee opt for a more formal approach to the mentoring relationship, here are a few resources to consider using:

• Men-Related Topics
  • Every Man’s Battle, Stephen Arterburn
  • How God Makes Men, Patrick Morley
  • Kingdom Man, Tony Evans
  • Pure Desire, Ted Roberts
  • Wild at Heart, John Eldredge
• Spiritual Formation Topics
  • A Cross-Shaped Gospel, Bryan Loritts
  • Crazy Love, Francis Chan
  • Discovering God’s Will, Andy Stanley
  • If You Want to Walk on Water, John Ortberg
  • Radical, David Platt
  • With, Skye Jethani

Additionally, there will be times when a get-together will reveal that the mentee is stuck and/or struggling in his life. Should this happen, we ask the mentor to encourage the mentee to seek counseling direction and support by reaching out to Fellowship’s counseling referral network at counseling@madeforfellowship.com.

What is the next step?

Complete the Mentor or Mentee survey and we will take it from there!

Men’s Mentee Survey
Men’s Mentor Survey

At times, due to the supply/demand dynamic, there may be a lag time in matching up mentors/mentees. We will do our best to keep you posted.